D: Dating debacle

Dating sucks. No, seriously. The whole process of going on dates, trying to find someone you could fall in love with; it’s tedious. I would not want to go through that again. I remember my first date. It was a disaster. Typically, that guy could not stop talking about himself. Or rather, his music. The only good part about that date was that it was in my favourite coffee place. I ordered my favourite coffee, Devil’s own. And paid for it. I had this thing of going dutch on the first date. I hated it when guys went all chauvinistic and insisted on paying. Specially because we were both students and he certainly did not have extra cash to spare. Unless of course he was a rich brat; which I have never had the good fortune to encounter. (thankfully!)

My first date was certainly not my worst date. My worst date happened in 2011, but that a different story, entirely. I deviate from my point. This dating thing is warped. I was once set up with a guy. Who I somewhat liked. We had a great conversation. AND he was cute. The only problem was I didn’t hear from him again. Was it because my friend had dropped me on his bike?

So, dating is complicated. You don’t know who you would end up liking. And whether he will like you back. And dates which end with the guy awkwardly trying to hold your hand and declaring that he loves you suck the most. Love at first sight? No way. Stay away, please.

I have encountered a few jerks over the years. But I have also met sweet guys, who I ended up being friends with. There was a prolonged period where all the guys I was meeting, whether with intentions of dating or not; turned out to have jerk characteristics. And then there was this guy hating phase and the who needs guys phase and the I hate being single phase.(These three combined phases lasted around three months.)  And the in between two relationships phase(I didn’t know that then, of course) of nonchalance and uncertainty

Is it worth it? Would I change any of that if I ever get the chance? I don’t think so. If I had not experienced all of this I wouldn’t have  such funny stories to tell.  I wouldn’t know what kind of guy I don’t want to fall in love with. And I would not even have the guts to have my heartbroken.

And that is why I really like this quote from the movie He’s just not that into you

“Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.”